Sunday, May 23, 2010

People’s single point of view:

“In the race to become independent to take our own decisions, we forget to ask suggestions from others”.

In our daily life we come across many people who think or analyze a particular situation in a single point of view (in their own perspective), I mean they won’t analyze in a holistic way. It’s common that when we see a person for the first time, we’ll start thinking or judging him/her in an urge to know them in a better way. By doing this we create certain image or invisible boundary about the person’s personality. But most of the times we fail in accuracy. This mostly happens when we hear things about strangers. Even though we would have not seen them, we tend to know them. When we get to know about that person we create certain mind block towards his/her personality.  It can be negative or positive depends on the source from which we get the information. When we meet that stranger (he’ll be no more stranger but…) we look at him by the same perspective, as the source had revealed. This could have an adverse effect on the person or may not and there arises a single point of view. We are no one to judge a person; we can only know him/her as they are.

In this world there are so many things which are not known to us or not yet explored. To reveal the mystery behind it, we ought to learn many things till our life exists. It’s a learning process; it may be through formal or informal way. There’s no age bar to learn things. Even though most of us know this truth, we certainly do not adopt it in our life because of our “ego”. It doesn’t allow us to learn things and we tend to defend ourselves by saying “we know everything”. This attitude gives rise to single point of view on certain aspect or thing. A person develops defending attitude and will not be able sense the other person’s point of view.  If we welcome and respect other’s suggestions and thoughts we’ll surly cultivate to think in a holistic way.

The definition for “happiness” differs from person to person. For instance I may feel immense happiness by buying a sun clock but my friend would be happy if she buys a top with the same amount. This can be applied for all the emotions such as anger, depression, being embarrassed etc. The degree at which we sense it differs from person to person. We would have come across so many people only at their depressing moments and we’ll always tend to show pity towards them. We only know their lighter part. At this situation we have a mind block that person’s life is filled with depressing moments.  But at the same time we don’t know that they might be happy in their own way and it can be for different reason. People find happiness in their own way according to their likes and dislikes. As a lay man we can’t judge others emotions in a holistic way. The search for happiness continues till our life exists.

As human beings we all have certain thinking pattern and according to that we analyze the situations. To cultivate a habit of thinking in a holistic way, at certain times we have to modify our thinking pattern rather than blaming the person or situation. This may avoid single point of view towards them...




24 comments:

Anonymous said...

An amazing piece of work '!..yet again your flow of thought is real astonishment..
May everyone who reads this digest a part of this to their lives...and make your purpose prolific..!!:)

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

hope so:) thank u!!

DVPrabhakar said...

First of all, you deserve to be appreciated because children of your age are victims of irrational thinking & behaviour, and you are trying to be different.
I suggest that you change the font of your article so that the subject matter is more clear to be read & understood.
Give more emphasis on practicality rather than elaborating the matter.
Get to the bottom of the issue you want to address & quote refernces from eminent psychologists.

GOOD BEGINNING KEEP IT UP.

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

thank you so much for reading it uncle!!! i'll surely reflect on the things you have suggested:)
thankx again:)

suJay said...

gr8 work !!! very true .... n yeah change d font n size ... ur content will surely hav an impact n
will make d readers think !!!

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

thank u!! and yeah sure i'll change the font:)

Unknown said...

excellent article!!!!....i have no words...seriously!!!:):):)....

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

thank u so much meera:)

Anonymous said...

Hi Shilpa,
Your view point seems to be Holistic ! Very Good article. Keep up the Good Work - Prof.Nagarathna, MLACW, Kannada Dept.

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

thank you so much for reading it:) im glad you read the article ma'am!!

chinnuavi said...

wow... its really amazing shilpa.... it is speechless... truly tellin its a gr8 work by u to change the mind setup of somepeople like me also...and tis wil be very useful who reads and understands tis...

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

yeah hope so!! thank u:)

spikethought said...

u hav done a gr8 job....gud hold on vocabulary!!!!this seems to be a professional writing wid matured thoughts......keep it up!!!!:)

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

hey thankx a lot shreyas:):)

rohit jain said...

gud1...its a great article

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

thank u:):)

teju said...

hey its a gud food for thought!!!!dis one s adorable..:)

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

thank u so much teju:):)

Unknown said...

Hi shilpa,

Am very happy to read this article were a young psychology student is so interested in such topics..... Your study about "mixed emotions" is really excellent.. I can see the real effort of yours.... Each and every person should understand about the emotions which they feel within themselves...

good dear. Keep it up
Shalini.n
kannada lecturer
MLACW BANGALORE

Shilpa Nagaraj said...

thank u so much ma'ma!! im really glad that u read the article:)

Imran_A said...

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Shilpa Nagaraj said...

hey thank u!!

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Shilpa Nagaraj said...

yeah!! thankx:)