Understand, and then move on!

Why do we judge when we don’t even try to understand??

The ‘hurt’ of rejection,

The ‘anguish’ of being lonely,

The world of ‘unkind’,

The ‘fear’ of what’s next,

The ‘embarrassment’ of not knowing their own identity,

The constant search for shoulders to ‘weep on’,

The ‘rage’ of being punished without any mistake,

The sense of ‘being shattered’ of not knowing the meaning of love and care,

The ‘frustration’ of being provoked by the people’s talk….

 This is the state of an orphan when he’s left alone to wander in the society! The scenario what I want to bring out is, can we judge a person by his face value? Though the orphans confront many problems, can’t we differentiate them from the normal mass, Can we? No! So why is the race for being good or bad in this materialistic society? For which, the purity of being good or bad cannot be judged.

Yes! Judging is necessary but coming to a conclusion without understanding seems like a foolish act. By judging we list out certain positives and negatives in a person’s personality, based on that we draw an invisible boundary of his/her moral fiber and we always tend to judge him within the same boundary. Is it justifiable? Creating a boundary for others based on our thinking! Certainly we won’t change our boundary’s dimension, with the time. (People are prone to change with a view of adjusting to the society.)  By doing this we can just predict a person’s next move rather than understanding his/her situation, which made them to do so.

Most of the conflicts arise due to failing in judging what’s good or bad, desirable or undesirable, merits or demerits. Judging a particular thing to extract all these for our own self is no harm but judging other’s way of living for extracting all these is dangerous. As we all know it’s a simple phenomenon which works here. Its, “my perception on a particular thing appears to be good but other’s perception on the same thing can differ. The things which are desirable for me can be undesirable for others. The definition of good or bad, desirable or undesirable, right or wrong differs from person to person”. So as a lay man I’d judge others based on my belief on these things, unaware of other’s feelings. By doing this we can just know a person’s overt behavior, but once we practice to understand him/her we can know his/her true self! This is really necessary to have an authentic relationship.

There is no law which states which are good or bad, right or wrong. In most of the situations an aspect or a thing which has majority of acceptance, is accorded as a good one! And contrary is termed as bad one. How far is it relevant? Because every good thing or aspect has an ability to become corrupt and manipulates people to do unjust things.  For instance, being cherished is such a nice feeling and it can be termed as good one but once it becomes ‘more’ and crosses the limit  it’ll start giving place to possessiveness and makes a person rebellious. It happens only if a person lacks understanding. So it’s always better to understand a person than judging or just knowing his traits coz “no one is perfect”!

                                  Learn to understand not to judge!