Desire and a proposal…

Long time ago, he had a dream in his eyes of becoming a person what he desired to be. He absolutely believed in it. He dint judge his desire. He went on dreaming, thinking only about his desire. He rejoiced his dreams though it’s still just a dream which isn’t realized. But when he woke up, as the feeling of delight won’t endure longer, he started questioning his own dreams. As he knew, dreams before realization are just foolish desires. As he started questioning his thoughts multiplied. And gradually his desire invited fear. Fear slowly grew larger than his desire. He was struck in the conflict of believing between fear and desire. He knew nothing about the solution. He was experiencing the state of utter bewilderment. After analyzing all the possibilities, he did what his intellect said: he killed himself.



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Why did he kill himself? What was his desire?  And what was his fear? What did he forget, which made him take such a ruthless decision? His desire was just as simple as color white. Genuine. He desired to “live”, by existing on the terms laid by his heart but he feared society. He wanted to live as an awakened being. He dint wait for the approval and committed a brutal act.

This narrative depicts the state of people who kill themselves. Especially developing countries like, India has been hit by this dangerous disease called “suicide”. It’s shocking to know that in India more than 14 people kill themselves per hour. And the city where I reside, Bangaluru has been recorded highest suicide rate and it’s termed as suicide capital of India again. It’s alarming. Reasons may vary but the final outcome is terrifying. Many have been debated about this topic and yet to find a solution and I don’t want to play the same record. 

So what is that new thing which must be adopted to reduce suicide rate?

Here is a small proposal towards the betterment of our country. Why can’t Government of India start calculating GNH (gross national happiness) along with GDP (gross domestic product)? Because, “it’s always the statistics is what makes us aware about the intensity of the problem”. The concern which is shown towards the economy of the country must be escorted with the wellness of people.

 (To know what Gross national happiness is, watch this video)

 “When people refuse to remember the most important thing, I.e. “hope”, everything else becomes void. A person who believes in “hope” and “waiting” can conquer the things he desire”

“May this bring joy, happiness and an urge to live”

Strange society!

We live in a world where,

Justice is denied;

Being hurt is glorified;

Time has become a reason to live;

Simple things are made complicated;

Nature is questioned for its existence;

Happiness is pretended;
Love is conditioned;

Truth is shattered;

Interests are manipulated;

Conclusions are biased;

Seen things are turned down;

Understanding is just taking initiative;

Slowness is disregarded;

Artificial beauty is admired;

Abilities are judged through grades;

Seclusion seems impossible;
Relationships are just accorded names;

Innocence is damned;

Listening is tagged with situation;

Not knowing is treated as sin;

Conflicts are termed as challenges;

Money is something supreme;

Ego is called as “the attitude”;

Ambitious people are ones who compete with ‘others’;

Accepting is nothing but compromising;

Introspection results in discontent;  

Ignorance is misinterpreted as laziness;

Respect is assumed;

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So?!

Well, these are the things which I’ve observed and of course most of them I’ve experienced. I cannot conclude saying all these are wrong, coz I don’t know what’s precise. But just reflect on these thoughts, and try to analyze how we are actually living. Seems like, we are messed up following things which doesn’t serve any purpose. We are not what we are!

There’s a “little voice” within us, which constantly reminds about peace (inner peace). We disapprove this “Little voice” and suppress it . Ultimately, we are ones who suffer.

Why? Why aren’t we allowing it to speak? Scared? Grown up? Think about it.

“Let yourself go”

~ Zindagi na milegi dobara (movie)

Thanks a lot for reading . 

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Change; often misinterpreted aspect...

Changing time;

Dude move on, people change;

Change yourself;

grrr! I hate u coz u’ve changed;

Don’t change, u idiot;

Accept changes;

omg! She is not the same person;

These are the few phrases we usually bump into. Nevertheless approach towards change has never changed. Do we really know the exact meaning of change? Are we still conservative in our approach towards “change”? Why do we hesitate to change? Do we really understand the reason behind change? Why don’t we accept the fact that each one of us change? Why acceptance is not that easy? Why do we expect things or people to be same always? Why do we often blame a person for changing?  Reflect on these questions, it leaves you puzzled for a while. 

So, if there are questions, there must be answers though at times it doesn’t make any sense. I’ve tried to reflect on these questions, and here is my reflection. Change is defiantly necessary, and it’s a natural phenomena. All of us change but in different fashions. We change and it ought to be accepted. Some personality traits may remain unchanged but we certainly learn many things which alter us as a being. We change because we are in a process of learning and we all agree that “we are not perfect” so in the quest to become perfect, we change!

We’ve cultivated a habit of blaming people and things around us, for changing. Why so? Do we expect them to remain unchanged throughout their life? No. we don’t. It seems we are not clear about the things we want; we keep altering them according to our own moods and desires. In turn we expect them to adjust to our modification. This surly creates a chaos in a relationship. It’s like, we don’t want our friends to change but expect our parents to accept changes and adapt certain values to understand present generation. We always want people to be as we wish them to be, which is foolish and ultimately we are one who suffer.

 We need to be little modest and accept our changes and respect the changes in others. Change can be negative or positive; it depends on the person’s mentality and the way his thought process work. We live only our life not other’s, we don’t have any authority to question them for being so. We expect a lot from others which in turn becomes hard for us to accept other’s changes. Just let go. Change when you want to and allow others to change. Change is a blissful experience, each day is new coz we are new each day.

Glory of glowing..

Someone is following me from many days, but I noticed it latterly. He is incredible. Though there were days when I use to hate him for following me; I smile looking at his vividness now. His glow is epic. He is mysterious and my heart goes on and on wondering about him. He is stunning. I’ve even cried coz of him; he was the reason for me being irritated and fussy at times. But at this instant, I like him for the way he is. He’s unexplainable. He bestows life. I’m inspired by the way he is. His vibrancy and colour is brilliant.

Yes, I’ve fallen in love with “The Sun", who is the cause of happiness for many. He’s the creator of bliss and I love him ( donno why I address sun as male). I’m attracted towards him; I’ve started clicking only his pictures. He’s beyond beauty. I greet him every morning just to say that I adore him (l adore him, not the summer) and want to shine like him. He is formed over four and a half billion years ago and still he emerge as a NEW born baby every morning. My hopes are encouraged by his gleam.

Let his brightness remain the same.  His gleam is awaking the world of ecstasy but shouldn’t become the reason for devastation <*wishful thinking*>.

                                                         ( my clicks) 

“The sun illuminates only the eye of the man, but shines onto the eye and heart of a child”.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson 

Mysterious!

Was wonder-struck for a split second…

Don’t know what to say,

Don’t know how to retort,

Don’t know from where to initiate,

Don’t know which is precise,

Don’t know what the little eerie things meant,

Don’t know what the emptiness spoke about,

Don’t know what was happening,

Totally shattered and void…

..silence is the answer?

..time is the answer?

..smile is the answer?

..grief is the answer?

..intention is the answer?

..being jobless is the answer?

Am I the answer..? Don’t know...

Is it just an anticipation of future!

Is it just a complex feeling acting so!

Is it just an abstract thought!

Is it the questions itself to be questioned!

So Can I really believe that I know what I don’t know?! Yet again don’t know..

All I got to know is to rejoice the bliss and peace in me, for which I would be blessed with answers, somewhere in the journey of being! As my heart’s doors are always open for happiness, though naughty troubles trespass with it,.!

        Be curious and fall in love with living by experiencing the wonder!

Understand, and then move on!

Why do we judge when we don’t even try to understand??

The ‘hurt’ of rejection,

The ‘anguish’ of being lonely,

The world of ‘unkind’,

The ‘fear’ of what’s next,

The ‘embarrassment’ of not knowing their own identity,

The constant search for shoulders to ‘weep on’,

The ‘rage’ of being punished without any mistake,

The sense of ‘being shattered’ of not knowing the meaning of love and care,

The ‘frustration’ of being provoked by the people’s talk….

 This is the state of an orphan when he’s left alone to wander in the society! The scenario what I want to bring out is, can we judge a person by his face value? Though the orphans confront many problems, can’t we differentiate them from the normal mass, Can we? No! So why is the race for being good or bad in this materialistic society? For which, the purity of being good or bad cannot be judged.

Yes! Judging is necessary but coming to a conclusion without understanding seems like a foolish act. By judging we list out certain positives and negatives in a person’s personality, based on that we draw an invisible boundary of his/her moral fiber and we always tend to judge him within the same boundary. Is it justifiable? Creating a boundary for others based on our thinking! Certainly we won’t change our boundary’s dimension, with the time. (People are prone to change with a view of adjusting to the society.)  By doing this we can just predict a person’s next move rather than understanding his/her situation, which made them to do so.

Most of the conflicts arise due to failing in judging what’s good or bad, desirable or undesirable, merits or demerits. Judging a particular thing to extract all these for our own self is no harm but judging other’s way of living for extracting all these is dangerous. As we all know it’s a simple phenomenon which works here. Its, “my perception on a particular thing appears to be good but other’s perception on the same thing can differ. The things which are desirable for me can be undesirable for others. The definition of good or bad, desirable or undesirable, right or wrong differs from person to person”. So as a lay man I’d judge others based on my belief on these things, unaware of other’s feelings. By doing this we can just know a person’s overt behavior, but once we practice to understand him/her we can know his/her true self! This is really necessary to have an authentic relationship.

There is no law which states which are good or bad, right or wrong. In most of the situations an aspect or a thing which has majority of acceptance, is accorded as a good one! And contrary is termed as bad one. How far is it relevant? Because every good thing or aspect has an ability to become corrupt and manipulates people to do unjust things.  For instance, being cherished is such a nice feeling and it can be termed as good one but once it becomes ‘more’ and crosses the limit  it’ll start giving place to possessiveness and makes a person rebellious. It happens only if a person lacks understanding. So it’s always better to understand a person than judging or just knowing his traits coz “no one is perfect”!

                                  Learn to understand not to judge! 

what matters?!?

It’s not the matter of winning; it’s the matter of “satisfaction”

It’s not the matter of marks; it’s the matter of “knowledge”

It’s not the matter of accomplishing the task; it’s the matter of “knowing the purpose”

It’s not the matter of judging; it’s the matter of “understanding”

It’s not the matter of pride; it’s the matter of “happiness”

It’s not the matter of competition; it’s the matter of “exploring oneself”

It’s not the matter of gathering; it’s the matter of “enjoying with each other”

It’s not the matter of giving suggestion; it’s the matter of “person who is giving”

It’s not the matter of arguing; it’s the matter of “being silent”

It’s not the matter of success; it’s the matter of “values”

It’s not the matter of just listing; it’s the matter of “being aware”

It’s not the matter of smiling; it’s the matter of “reason behind it”

It’s not the matter of freedom; it’s the matter of “being free”

It’s not the matter of sacrifice; it’s the matter of “sharing”

It’s not the matter of justice; it’s the matter of “truth”

It’s not the matter of caring; it’s the matter of “sensitivity”

It’s not the matter of u and me; it’s the matter of “us”…!!!!!!!