People’s single point of view:

“In the race to become independent to take our own decisions, we forget to ask suggestions from others”.

In our daily life we come across many people who think or analyze a particular situation in a single point of view (in their own perspective), I mean they won’t analyze in a holistic way. It’s common that when we see a person for the first time, we’ll start thinking or judging him/her in an urge to know them in a better way. By doing this we create certain image or invisible boundary about the person’s personality. But most of the times we fail in accuracy. This mostly happens when we hear things about strangers. Even though we would have not seen them, we tend to know them. When we get to know about that person we create certain mind block towards his/her personality.  It can be negative or positive depends on the source from which we get the information. When we meet that stranger (he’ll be no more stranger but…) we look at him by the same perspective, as the source had revealed. This could have an adverse effect on the person or may not and there arises a single point of view. We are no one to judge a person; we can only know him/her as they are.

In this world there are so many things which are not known to us or not yet explored. To reveal the mystery behind it, we ought to learn many things till our life exists. It’s a learning process; it may be through formal or informal way. There’s no age bar to learn things. Even though most of us know this truth, we certainly do not adopt it in our life because of our “ego”. It doesn’t allow us to learn things and we tend to defend ourselves by saying “we know everything”. This attitude gives rise to single point of view on certain aspect or thing. A person develops defending attitude and will not be able sense the other person’s point of view.  If we welcome and respect other’s suggestions and thoughts we’ll surly cultivate to think in a holistic way.

The definition for “happiness” differs from person to person. For instance I may feel immense happiness by buying a sun clock but my friend would be happy if she buys a top with the same amount. This can be applied for all the emotions such as anger, depression, being embarrassed etc. The degree at which we sense it differs from person to person. We would have come across so many people only at their depressing moments and we’ll always tend to show pity towards them. We only know their lighter part. At this situation we have a mind block that person’s life is filled with depressing moments.  But at the same time we don’t know that they might be happy in their own way and it can be for different reason. People find happiness in their own way according to their likes and dislikes. As a lay man we can’t judge others emotions in a holistic way. The search for happiness continues till our life exists.

As human beings we all have certain thinking pattern and according to that we analyze the situations. To cultivate a habit of thinking in a holistic way, at certain times we have to modify our thinking pattern rather than blaming the person or situation. This may avoid single point of view towards them...

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Reality:

“We deny to believe in reality for a momentary happiness”

Sometimes it’s really hard to believe the reality, what’s actually happening around us. Even though we are practical enough to judge a circumstance we tend to deny it because it may hurt us. Denying something which is real may have an adverse effect on a person and as well as people around him/her. People around such person find it difficult to make him/her understand about reality. People who are “highly “imaginative I mean who have their own perception on certain things which has not been accepted by others, will find it difficult in accepting things as they are.(I have mentioned highly in double codes because all the people who are imaginative are not like this only few). In some aspects creativity decreases the purity of reality. The degree in which a person is creative or imaginative matters a lot!

In some situations to accept the reality one has be bold and brave enough because the society creeps into the situation. This makes an ever lasting impact on a person. We tend to believe as reality only the things we see and experience. There are many things that are unseen and not experienced by many people. In such things it’s very difficult to verify reality. It’ll be so strange that one starts giving different names for it. Accepting certain things as they are is bit difficult and one has to have conflict within him/her. By denying some reality one can feel unexplainable happiness which he/she could have not experienced by accepting it. The thinking should be in practical way and the approach towards it should be in creative way. This’ll surly enhances the efficiency in a person.

The definition for few aspects changes as we grow. Some people who are elder or younger than us will have different definition for the same aspect, and for this we popularly call as “generation gap”. There is no unanimity among the people about the existence of generation gap. Most of the conflicts which happen between the parents and children are because of existence of generation gap. The perspective about the reality differs between parents and children. In such situation there’ll be no proper judgment about reality. Both will have different point of view on reality. When there is mutual agreement or mutual understanding between them, than the term “generation gap” doesn’t exist.

Some people have a tendency of talking with non-living things. Sometimes this looks like a childish act or we do appreciate for their creativity. By this the person will not be able to know the point of view of others. One can tell about certain aspect but can’t share things with them. This’ll surely help a person to bring out his emotion from his/her heart but the satisfaction which he gains from doing it will not last for long. The person becomes more dependent on the object. The person should know the limit for his/her dependency. In such aspects the value for reality decreases. “Perceiving the thing as it is and later changing it according to one’s own mentality is better than perceiving the thing according to one’s own mentality”. It makes a difference.